Are You Blocking Love in Your Intimate Relationship



 

 

 

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ARE YOU ACCEPTING LOVE INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE
Before we can have a truly wonderful, open-hearted, totally intimate relationship with another person, we need to be able to fully enjoy and receive love and appreciation when it’s given to us.
Sounds easy, right?
I mean, isn’t love and appreciation what we want? Why wouldn’t we be able to receive it when it’s given to us?
But the truth is, more people struggle with receiving love than they do with giving it.
Our need to constantly do, manage, control and protect, ends up getting in our way of fully enjoying and savouring the gift of someone else’s affection and admiration. And sometimes, our past experiences have conditioned us not to let in all the love we want.
These two “blockers” of love (which we’ll explain below) aren’t obvious.
In fact, we’ve internalised them so much that we don’t even know we do it, and we certainly don’t know they are problems.
They are like two huge force-fields. They can’t let love in, or what they do let in is often warped or hard to understand or so weak that it never fully enters our souls.

Love Blocker #1: Not Being Present
Being present is an incredibly challenging mindset to foster these days. There are ever-ringing smartphones, hungry children, work deadlines, doctor’s appointments and more causing our mind to constantly race to manage, plan ahead and handle efficiently.
Because there are so many other things clamouring for our attention, we often aren’t really listening when our partners are talking to us.
We get caught up in the past (what we didn’t do, why something happened the way it did, and how we felt when someone did something to us) or planning and worrying about the future.
But here’s the thing: if we can’t be with our partners in the moment and really hear what they are saying to us, we are unable to fully receive their love and attention.
Either we don’t hear it (we are too busy tuning them out and having our minds wander elsewhere), or they don’t want to say it (they can see that we are not paying attention).
You may feel like love has gone, or was never really there to begin with, but really you are just caught up in the past and future. You aren’t present with the love, and therefore aren’t “there” to receive it.
After all, if someone is loving you and you aren’t “there”, it feels the same as them not loving you.
Now, we aren’t saying you can’t ever get lost in your thoughts, or plan for the future, or revisit the past. But making a conscious effort to be present with your partner is critical to opening up the flow of love between you.

Love Blocker #2: Not Loving Yourself
When we believe, deep down inside of us, that we aren’t worthy of love, then it’s impossible for us to find genuine love, and create true intimacy with our partner.
And here’s something important for you to know: most of us, when we don’t love ourselves, don’t even realise it.

But that’s what’s happening when we stay in a bad relationship for too long.
Or when we put everyone else’s needs before our own.
Or push away another’s attempt to help us.
Or look in the mirror and see all our flaws and imperfections.

It’s what’s happening when we feel unappreciated in our relationship, or when we put up with any kind of abuse, neglect, constant criticism or unhealthy behaviours.
You may think “on the surface” that you deserve to get certain things and be treated a certain way, but if you don’t fully love and accept yourself, this belief will rule over the surface beliefs and statements, and you won’t get genuine love and acceptance from someone else.
If you are single, you look for someone to fill the hole of love that you aren’t giving yourself. But since you don’t believe yourself worthy to love and accept yourself, you also can’t accept someone else’s love. You, either push love away, sabotage things, or attract someone who doesn’t love him or herself into your life.
If you are in a relationship, everything that happens in that relationship confirms that you aren’t lovable. You perpetuate destructive patterns, can’t share your deepest feelings, can’t honour yourself and your needs, and can’t create true intimacy with your partner.

If you don’t feel worthy of love, you can’t truly let others love you. You block it, don’t believe it, or reject it entirely.
You need and crave unconditional love and acceptance. But first you have to give it to yourself before you can ask for it from someone else.
It’s both a scary and exhilarating insight when you realise that you are getting in your own way of receiving genuine love – particularly when you realise you haven’t loved yourself enough.
Be gentle with yourself when you have this realisation, and we also hope you feel a new source of power and optimism that things can be different than they are today.
We all have our individual journeys on the road to self-love and being present. But the good news is, we are here to be your mentors and guides to make it as easy and fun as possible.
Once we’ve built that foundation, we’ll teach you all the tools and advice you need to create a lasting, joyous relationship that runs entirely on positive energy.
We’ll demonstrate and role play how to open a positive flow of love and curiosity that activates the creative genius inside you, and we’ll also show you the body postures, facial expressions and dynamics that prevent love from blooming.

We are certain you will see radical changes in your love life – whether you are single or in a relationship – once you’ve watched this program.
Most advice out there offers tips and techniques to help you meet a potential partner, flirt effectively, or know the “rules” of dating. But these superficial techniques don’t get to the heart of what’s really preventing you from finding lasting love. When you don’t completely love yourself, or are afraid to fully embrace who you are and what you want in life, no dating technique will be effective.
Real change starts from the inside out. If you truly want to find someone, or allow your partner to love you, you need to make critical inner shifts that will invite them into your life.
From “Hearts in Harmony” Gay and Kate Hendricks

At Love Life Matters we can help you make the changes to accept love into you life.

ARE YOU ACCEPTING LOVE INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP/MARRIAGE
Before we can have a truly wonderful, open-hearted, totally intimate relationship with another person, we need to be able to fully enjoy and receive love and appreciation when it’s given to us.
Sounds easy, right?
I mean, isn’t love and appreciation what we want? Why wouldn’t we be able to receive it when it’s given to us?
But the truth is, more people struggle with receiving love than they do with giving it.
Our need to constantly do, manage, control and protect, ends up getting in our way of fully enjoying and savouring the gift of someone else’s affection and admiration. And sometimes, our past experiences have conditioned us not to let in all the love we want.
These two “blockers” of love (which we’ll explain below) aren’t obvious.
In fact, we’ve internalised them so much that we don’t even know we do it, and we certainly don’t know they are problems.
They are like two huge force-fields. They can’t let love in, or what they do let in is often warped or hard to understand or so weak that it never fully enters our souls.

Love Blocker #1: Not Being Present
Being present is an incredibly challenging mindset to foster these days. There are ever-ringing smartphones, hungry children, work deadlines, doctor’s appointments and more causing our mind to constantly race to manage, plan ahead and handle efficiently.
Because there are so many other things clamouring for our attention, we often aren’t really listening when our partners are talking to us.
We get caught up in the past (what we didn’t do, why something happened the way it did, and how we felt when someone did something to us) or planning and worrying about the future.
But here’s the thing: if we can’t be with our partners in the moment and really hear what they are saying to us, we are unable to fully receive their love and attention.
Either we don’t hear it (we are too busy tuning them out and having our minds wander elsewhere), or they don’t want to say it (they can see that we are not paying attention).
You may feel like love has gone, or was never really there to begin with, but really you are just caught up in the past and future. You aren’t present with the love, and therefore aren’t “there” to receive it.
After all, if someone is loving you and you aren’t “there”, it feels the same as them not loving you.
Now, we aren’t saying you can’t ever get lost in your thoughts, or plan for the future, or revisit the past. But making a conscious effort to be present with your partner is critical to opening up the flow of love between you.

Love Blocker #2: Not Loving Yourself
When we believe, deep down inside of us, that we aren’t worthy of love, then it’s impossible for us to find genuine love, and create true intimacy with our partner.
And here’s something important for you to know: most of us, when we don’t love ourselves, don’t even realise it.

But that’s what’s happening when we stay in a bad relationship for too long.
Or when we put everyone else’s needs before our own.
Or push away another’s attempt to help us.
Or look in the mirror and see all our flaws and imperfections.

It’s what’s happening when we feel unappreciated in our relationship, or when we put up with any kind of abuse, neglect, constant criticism or unhealthy behaviours.
You may think “on the surface” that you deserve to get certain things and be treated a certain way, but if you don’t fully love and accept yourself, this belief will rule over the surface beliefs and statements, and you won’t get genuine love and acceptance from someone else.
If you are single, you look for someone to fill the hole of love that you aren’t giving yourself. But since you don’t believe yourself worthy to love and accept yourself, you also can’t accept someone else’s love. You, either push love away, sabotage things, or attract someone who doesn’t love him or herself into your life.
If you are in a relationship, everything that happens in that relationship confirms that you aren’t lovable. You perpetuate destructive patterns, can’t share your deepest feelings, can’t honour yourself and your needs, and can’t create true intimacy with your partner.

If you don’t feel worthy of love, you can’t truly let others love you. You block it, don’t believe it, or reject it entirely.
You need and crave unconditional love and acceptance. But first you have to give it to yourself before you can ask for it from someone else.
It’s both a scary and exhilarating insight when you realise that you are getting in your own way of receiving genuine love – particularly when you realise you haven’t loved yourself enough.
Be gentle with yourself when you have this realisation, and we also hope you feel a new source of power and optimism that things can be different than they are today.
We all have our individual journeys on the road to self-love and being present. But the good news is, we are here to be your mentors and guides to make it as easy and fun as possible.
Once we’ve built that foundation, we’ll teach you all the tools and advice you need to create a lasting, joyous relationship that runs entirely on positive energy.
We’ll demonstrate and role play how to open a positive flow of love and curiosity that activates the creative genius inside you, and we’ll also show you the body postures, facial expressions and dynamics that prevent love from blooming.

We are certain you will see radical changes in your love life – whether you are single or in a relationship – once you’ve watched this program.
Most advice out there offers tips and techniques to help you meet a potential partner, flirt effectively, or know the “rules” of dating. But these superficial techniques don’t get to the heart of what’s really preventing you from finding lasting love. When you don’t completely love yourself, or are afraid to fully embrace who you are and what you want in life, no dating technique will be effective.
Real change starts from the inside out. If you truly want to find someone, or allow your partner to love you, you need to make critical inner shifts that will invite them into your life.
From “Hearts in Harmony” Gay and Kate Hendricks

At Love Life Matters we can help you make the changes to accept love into you life.

 


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